How Playfulness Can Turn Up the Heat in Your Relationship

True love doesn't always result in "happily ever afters." Few of us want to face this truth, but once you've metaphorically galloped out into the distance with your true love, everyday life returns to normal. There's a good chance that you both have employment, routine obligations, personal matters, and daily tasks to attend to. The romance may begin to fade as time goes on.

There's a straightforward strategy to attempt if you want to keep things going strong. A study from the University Halle-Wittenberg and Pennsylvania State University suggests that being more fun in your relationship may help keep the flame alive. According to the experts, adopting this approach may reduce relationship friction, foster trust, and even lessen monotony in the bedroom. Finding a time for play, though, can be challenging. 

Drs. Sherry Cooper, Brooke Aymes, and Jess Carbino, three relationship specialists, have been enlisted to assist us because of this. According to Dr. Cooper, "the weight of added responsibility can easily cause people to forget to be playful and fun in long-term relationships." "It's critical to strike a balance between enjoyment and accountability. Playfulness lightens the load of some responsibilities, which helps to preserve relationships.  

Show Some Vulnerability

Make sure you feel comfortable integrating playfulness into your relationship before anything else. "The key is to feel secure enough in your relationship to be able to choose to be vulnerable," says Aymes. "When we feel safe, secure, and accepted in our relationships, we are more likely to be vulnerable, try new things, and be playful."

Start Small

"Adults can introduce fun in a deliberate, methodical manner. When confronting challenges in maintaining or rekindling romance in their relationship, many couples try to do something extravagant, like taking a vacation or organising a large date night, explains Dr. Carbino. large gestures must be sustained by smaller, more frequent, playful acts and exchanges. "While this grand gesture may be important as a first step to give the relationship a jolt," the author writes.

Make Time for Each Other

Even though you and I both have busy schedules, you should still make time for your partner. According to Aymes, scheduling quality time with one another intentionally is the most crucial thing couples can do to keep the romance alive in their union. "We are more likely to initiate and engage in romantic activities if we feel connected to one another."

Surprise Your Partner

You can surprise your sweetheart without throwing a lavish party. "If your relationship's romance is waning, take some action to make your mate feel unique. Send an unexpected text to express your affection or to let them know you have a surprise in store, advises Dr. Cooper.

Get Flirting

It's normal to flirt when you meet new people. You might not even be conscious of it. But the more time you spend with them, the less you'll feel the urge to express your attraction. According to Dr. Carbino, flirting is crucial in a committed relationship since it shows desire. Flirting can be a crucial tool for communicating mutual desire. As relationships develop, it's very typical for there to be a difference in desire.

Crack a Joke

The little things matter most. Why not sprinkle a few one-liners throughout the day for good measure? We can intentionally include more playful activities like joking, dancing, or just being funny once we feel more at ease playing in our regular routines, according to Aymes.

Get Playful In the Bedroom

Are you sick of your bedroom's usual routine? You don't have to limit your humorous side to routine activities. Why not experiment while in bed? Dr. Cooper advises couples to read the Kama Sutra and decide on a new sexual position jointly. Play a sexual game like Truth or Dare or The Intimacy Deck.

Find a New Mutual Hobby

When did you last have a dating night? It could be time to try something new and change things up. "Dates allow for increased experiences to recall later in life, as well as increased communication and teamwork," says Dr. Cooper. "Consider if it's an activity you have never done together, something neither of you are good at, or an activity that is not often available for you to do together."

Go On an Adventure

Get ready for an adventure and leave with your friends. This event will undoubtedly strengthen your relationship. "We will probably have the opportunity to see our partner in a different light whether it's hiking a mountain, axe throwing, trying hibachi for the first time, or visiting a new place," adds Aymes. "Resume our relationship's dating phase."

Show a New Side of Yourself

Do you feel at ease in your relationship? Share a different side of yourself to keep things interesting. According to Dr. Carbino, "playful dates should enable the couple to observe the aspects of their partner that they find most attractive and conducive to signalling important aspects of play (i.e. curiosity, imagination, etc.)"